Tease & Denial

Tease and denial, commonly abbreviated as T& D, is a sexual practice involving the teasing of a partner to a heightened state of arousal, followed by the intentional withholding of sexual gratification or orgasm. This dynamic typically involves one partner, often referred to as the “teaser” or “denier, ” teasing the other partner, known as the “teasee” or “denial recipient, ” through various means such as verbal teasing, physical stimulation, or erotic play.

The teasing phase of tease and denial can encompass a range of activities aimed at building anticipation and arousal, including flirtatious behavior, sensual touch, erotic talk, or visual stimulation. The teaser may stimulate their partner to the brink of orgasm but then stop or withdraw before climax is reached, prolonging the experience of arousal.

Denial, as the name suggests, involves intentionally preventing the teasee from achieving sexual release or orgasm. This can be done through physical means, such as ceasing stimulation when the teasee is close to climax, or through psychological tactics, such as denying permission for orgasm or imposing restrictions on sexual activity.

Tease and denial is often practiced within the context of BDSM relationships, where it may serve as a form of erotic power exchange. It allows the teaser to assert control over the teasee’s sexual pleasure, creating a dynamic of dominance and submission.

Despite its name, tease and denial is typically a consensual activity, with clear boundaries and agreements established between partners. Communication, trust, and mutual understanding are essential to ensure that both partners derive pleasure from the experience and that it remains safe and enjoyable for everyone involved.